tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5202082923977088293.post6160760740377917667..comments2023-11-05T01:19:25.332-07:00Comments on Ask Angie - She'll have an answer: Innocent or Inapproriate?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5202082923977088293.post-11666458342784861902009-11-22T19:32:48.046-08:002009-11-22T19:32:48.046-08:00At the age of 12, I'm not sure that's appr...At the age of 12, I'm not sure that's appropriate anymore. While I'm sure it's quite innocent and very cute that they have this bonding time to discuss sports, I think 12 is too old for the dad to be in the bathroom while she's showering. As a teacher, it would have bothered me if one of my 12 year olds told me her dad's in the bathroom when she showers. I guess 12 is sort of on the border for when it's inappropriate...but if it's not now, it's getting there! Let the girl have her privacy and use the breakfast table for sports talk!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00661631574169142346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5202082923977088293.post-26671276942687321762009-11-18T12:43:16.590-08:002009-11-18T12:43:16.590-08:00This is from Lisa:
I don't think it inappropri...This is from Lisa:<br />I don't think it inappropriate if both parties are truly comfortable. I think soon enough "Lia" will become a teenager and I'm sure all of this will change...It's so wonderful to see such a great relationship between a father and a daughter. Good for them!Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02168240858859253333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5202082923977088293.post-2645112291516490522009-11-18T09:34:34.186-08:002009-11-18T09:34:34.186-08:00I also would not immediately deem this situation i...I also would not immediately deem this situation inappropriate, but I would definitely want to do a reality check with "Lia" that she is, in fact, completely comfortable with the situation as it stands, and make sure she feels empowered to do things like announce to Dad when she's finishing up her shower and know that he'll leave the room, or know that's it's 100 percent okay to change the arrangement at any point if she starts to feel differently about it.Sasha Carr, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01580247168353674037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5202082923977088293.post-79069157874057891862009-11-18T09:12:10.864-08:002009-11-18T09:12:10.864-08:00I think it is innocent with this assumption: both...I think it is innocent with this assumption: both parties (father and daughter) are indeed comfortable with the bathroom-sharing situation (opaque shower curtain in place!). I think it is great they have a few minutes a day of chat time. Good communication now means an increased chance of lifelong communication. I am willing to bet the parents are divorced. I am also willing to bet "Lia's" mother is feeling threatened by the close relationship the father has with his daughter. With that being said, as "Lia" gets older she may want to change up the situation and request more privacy in the bathroom but I feel for now it is fine. Many homes these days have numerous bathrooms so this is not as much of an issue but family is family and sometimes you just have to share a bathroom. I have two showers (and two young children) in my house and let me tell you that in the cold winter mornings I have NO interest in skipping downstairs to go to another shower. I think as "Lia" gets older her chat time with her father will evolve into another venue and they are setting the stage for keeping the lines of communication open whenever possible. I think it is ridiculous to think that, in these days when parents and kids struggle to find time and ways to communicate, an innocent effort to squeeze in some quality conversation is a bad idea.AmyDirckshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04686756084912134268noreply@blogger.com